The objective is not to remove tension. It is to stop tension becoming threat, and help the team turn it into better thinking.
A disagreement, a mistake or an unwelcome piece of news can be useful to the work and uncomfortable for the people in the room at the same time. When that discomfort starts to feel like a threat to status, belonging or reputation, attention shifts from what the work needs to how to protect yourself.
This point of view looks at what happens next, and at what leaders can do about it.
Inside the piece
- Fight, flight, freeze, fawn and flock. A practical language for the ways people protect themselves under pressure, and what each one does to the conversation.
- What happens to tension. How those responses show up across the Productive Friction Matrix: suppressed, displaced, weaponised or harnessed.
- Why hierarchy changes the risk. When a leader speaks first, anyone who disagrees now has two jobs. A simple practice: go last.
- The first response. What a leader does after someone speaks up teaches the team whether courage was worth it, with six practical responses.
- Conditions before courage. Why a team should not need heroics every time someone disagrees, with a research note and references.
Courage is individual.
The conditions for courage are collective.
4 pages · Includes a research note and references
Carly Adamson, Registered Psychologist, HumanMetrics
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